It was great today at my sons soccor training to chat with a mum – who has 2 kids now and pregnant with the third. We new each other from other meetings – albeit brief previously. Today we had the opportunity talk –
Yes she totally knew and understood the 2 parts of the brain involved in the ability of a person to be happy (in cause) and not reactive.
“Don’t say anything when your kids (or anyone) is hurt, in shock, or has decreased consciousness e,g, from illness or drugs”
Absolutey love them, cuddle them, hold their had be totally present, tidy up the surroundings.
Let them cry – to take the charge off.
Then let them tell you – and preferably reinact and show you – what happened.
The process of redoing the insident brings the subconscious memory of the insident out front so your thinking mind can refile the information as a situation rather than leaving it in the primative mind. Bringing it out – hearing yourself say it and increase the detail you recall each time you say it removes that insident from the primative mind and anyone is again free to see things closer to ‘what they are’ rather than bounced of the many life experiences and conclusions.
Enjoy loving without adding the word:)